Frequently Asked Questions, kurz FAQ = englisch für häufig gestellte Fragen - which I like to answer here.
You should know that I strive for absolute authenticity and therefore do not offer a preliminary talk on site. I have a lot of experience clarifying everything in advance by email. So I have enough time to prepare for our session and possibly give you a little task in advance.
It is often easier for my counterparts to describe or list experiences and fantasies via email than to find the right words on site. Here, too, I know exactly what I'm doing. One of my strengths is my empathy and so I will immediately notice any discrepancies.
If there is any uncertainty on my part, I will subject you to a brief interrogation. If you want to add something from your side, you can tell me when you say hello that you forgot to mention this or that.
I like to take the time to chat with you a little after the session. This is an opportunity for both of us to discuss open questions. It often happens that what my subs has just experienced is rather making them drifting and it would be a shame to talk the magic to death like that. In this case, I would be happy if you email me your impressions after our meeting.
Conclusion: There are many ways of communication, it is important, if not absolutely necessary. In my world, however, the condition is to adhere to the celebrated power exchange.
Basically nothing works for me "hush hush ..." I'm not a studio dominatrix who handles one slave after the other. No - on the contrary, I guarantee an experience at the highest level and value personal encounters. This requires a certain amount of preparation.
My many years of experience let me see in your application whether we are a good match. I see this, for example, in the style of the application. Is it addressed to me personally? Has the applicant read my website and respected my taboos? Do I get correspondence with complete connected sentences etc.?
You can briefly summarize the list of the information I want in keywords. But in clear words so that I can get an idea of you. The statement, "I know everything in the black area" or "I have a lot of experience ..." is insufficient and says nothing about you, except possibly that you do not take me seriously or that you do not want to or cannot communicate. Nevertheless, I want precise information about you in your application, so I'll create a profile of you and prepare our session.
My offer cannot be booked by everyone. The motto "the customer determines" does not resonate here. Silent connoisseurs or masochists who want an encounter at eye level are hereby requested to book their session elsewhere.
Regular guests can make an appointment at least 24 hours in advance. Whether I still have time is more a matter of luck. Please note that I also rent out my residence to other people. So I recommend inquiring at least 5 - 7 days in advance. Many sessions, especially those from guests from abroad, are booked 1 to 2 months in advance.
New slaves must apply at least 2 weeks before the session. When everything has been clarified and both parties agree to the arrangement, the session is confirmed (literally) and is binding from that moment on. A deposit of 50% must be made within 24 hours, via PayPal/credit card or e-banking/IBAN.
You can certainly understand that this rule arose after too many "fake bookings". Quite honestly - so many times slaves have guaranteed me to appear definitely and have even confirmed the session the day before. And yet they let me sit in my nicely prepared session. This is not only annoying, but also insulting. Since I do not run a Laufhaus, but rather reserve my entire residence and my time for the booked session, the financial damage is simply too great.
Of course, in the event of a verifiable emergency such as accident, illness, etc., half of the deposit for a session can be postponed to another day. However, this session should be booked within 3 months. I thank you for your understanding.
Reasons for this could be that you did not write to me personally. Or you may have added vulgar pictures of your gender. Or maybe you asked me about drugs or other taboos on my part. Or you sent me an email with only 2-3 sentences thrown out. In such cases, I delete the incoming email immediately.
Please read the AUDIENCE chapter on my website and apply as requested. Then you will usually get an answer.
It could of course also be that your request ended up in spam. In any case, ask if you have written a complete application and still cannot find an answer from me in your inbox after 2 days. Because in this case it would be a real shame if I couldn't read it.
We are absolutely private in my rooms, that means there are no other women I can spontaneously take into the session. With my concept of integral BDSM, there is no need to involve another person in the session anyway.
Integral BDSM: implementation of scenarios in relation to the different levels of body - mind - feeling - soul - systems - consciousness. You could also call it Holistic BDSM.
Basically, my aim is to practice constructive BDSM. This means to motivate slaves to get the best out of themselves instead of destroying them. This requires an encounter on a personal level in which I will lead you as your mistress, your coach through all the ups and downs.
Men who inform me how they like to see me, find no sympathy with me. It is clearly rude to tell me what to wear. Even if it is written in a polite manner.
No, of course you can't. Trust creates intimacy. So it is normal for us to get closer in the session. But that doesn't change anything about the power exchange that I celebrate. I will always be your Mistress, or Doctor or your Madame etc.
No, definitely not - I love men. It was and always will be. Sayings about "man-hating sadists" are bad prejudices. This usually comes from bad experiences or wrong / inexistent information. I can only say: a good Prodom with real session encounters must love men, otherwise they cannot do the job at all.
No absolutely not.
I've tried various forms of body slavery, 24/7, etc. over the past 20 years and it hasn't been really fulfilling for me during the time. So I decided not to offer the implementation of this fantasy anymore.
Of course I take on a service slave every now and then. This for doing small tasks, cleaning, shootings, chauffeur (Berlin) etc. But I'm very picky about that too.
Basically I am not a Findom. Constructive BDSM is fundamental to my interaction. That means blackmailing, wild insults and public exposures or other common practices on the subject are repugnant to me.
Of course I accept gifts or money without consideration, because as a matriarch & diva I enjoy being spoiled. In fact, I have a few slaves around who give me presents on a regular basis. This as a token of their admiration (sometimes only from a distance ...) or out of gratitude ...
If you want to give me a present, get a MEMBER access and look under the chapter PRESENTS.